Crematorium considers dissolving bodies …..

I read yesterday in the paper of a Crematorium considers dissolving bodies here is the link to the UK newspaper – The Telegraph

Maybe I am getting old, but I do believe that Crematoriums and Cemeteries are sacred places and should not be disturbed. What is being suggested in this news article somehow, does not seem right, it seems disrespectful. What say you?…..

Cross posted to Grave Encounters
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Twelve Days of Christmas by Trisha Ashley

Publisher: Avon (28 Oct 2010)
ISBN-10: 1847561152

The prologue to the book sets the scene. Holly Brown is a young widow whose husband was killed in a tragic accident just before Christmas. Holly’s parents died when she was young and she was raised by her Grandparents. Holly’s Grandmother had been ill and as she passed away she mentioned a name of Ned Marland. A name completely unfamiliar to Holly…..

Holly housesits for a living during the winter and works as a chef during the rest of the year. Due to her upbringing and her deepset grief at Christmas Holly doesn’t really celebrate Christmas and accepts a house sitting booking in country, where her tasks are to housesit and look after a dog and a horse. Accepting the booking Holly packs her car and heads off taking with her a trunk of her Grandmother’s notebooks in which Holly might just find out who the mysterious Ned is.

The notebooks reveal that Holly’s Grandmother met and nursed a young soldier back to health. After he was discharged from hospital and returned home he continued to meet with Holly’s Grandmother and they embarked upon a brief romatic relationship. As Holly housesits she gets to know the home owner who is abroad, his elderly nearby family, the pets and the local residents, who keep asking if she is a Marland, something which Holly denies. Holly also continues to discover her Grandmother through her note books and makes some fascinating discoveries along the way.

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52 Weeks of Personal Genealogy & History – Wk 1 – New Year

Week #1 – New Year’s Memories
Week 1: Did your family have any New Year’s traditions? How was the New Year celebrated during your childhood? Have you kept these traditions in the present day?!
This challenge runs from Saturday, January 1, 2011 through Friday, January 7, 2011.

As a child we really didn’t celebrate the New Year. I was usually allowed to stay up to see the New Year in , but we didn’t really do anything special that I remember.

We have now created our own traditions but again we don’t really celebrate much. We still though, stay up and see the New Year in and Stuart, growing up in Scotland always does the First foot. He usually goes outside with a bit of coal, meaning we’ll always be warm, some cash, meaning we will always have money and some food, we’ll always be fed. I guess that is more of a Scottish tradition, certainly coming from the Southern Counties we didn’t do the First foot.

For New Years Day we always have a roast dinner and eat at lunchtime, as usually we eat in the evenings. We usually make some plans for the coming year – holidays, or things we want to do etc. This New Year has started with the focus on my very recently deceased Aunt and her funeral and somehow 2010 has ended rather how it was in the middle of the year for us. We are hoping for a happier 2011.

What I have always disliked is that we start a new year with the Christmas tree still up and the decorations. If we had felt less ill this year we would probably have taken the tree and cards down before the New Year, but we always do before 12th Night (6th January).

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Ancestor of the Week – Edith Jelley nee Matthews

My grandmother, Lillian Edith MATTHEWS inherited her middle name from her Aunt, the sister of her father, Edith Annie Matthews born 1877 in Rugby Warwickshire. Despite this my Grandmother knew very little about Edith other than she was a nurse. My Grandmother never remembers seeing her. Research shows that the miles between my Grandmother’s family and that of Edith were not great, yet there appears to have been little communication between Edith and her brother.

What brought the family from the Midlands down to Guildford, where they lived in Merrow parish is unclear, but Edith did share one thing with her mother, they both died young.

I had inherited a few photographs of Edith, one of her in a type of military uniform, and another two photos of Edith with her children, the first with an older boy and girl and the second photo of the same two children with a young baby. That confirmed that Edith did indeed marry and have a family.

Figure 1 – Edith Matthews with her children identified as Charles & Edith Mabel

I turned at first to the military style photograph. Edith would have been too old to have been especially active during the Great War 1914-1918, so I pondered on the Boer War. Family history indicated that Edith was a nurse, so I researched the various avenues available. Edith Matthews had never been a nurse, but perhaps was a VAD?


Figure 2 Edith in her military style uniform

I put the nurse aspect on the backburner for a while and instead sought Edith’s marriage certificate. I eventually found it at Holy Trinity Guildford in 1902 where Edith married a Charles JELLEY. I was delighted, what a fun surname! It was not going to be too difficult to research Edith’s new family….or was it?
Edith Matthews & Charles Jelley
Figure 3 – Marriage Certificate for Edith Matthews to Charles Jelley 8th April 1902

Over the Christmas period of 2008 Findmypast opened up the search facility to the 1911 census. I could barely control myself! On Christmas Day, whilst the turkey was in the oven I nipped into my study for a quick search for Edith. There she was, in Redhill Surrey with her husband, two children Charles and a daughter Edith Mabel and her father, John Matthews who was recorded as a boarder.

JELLEY CHARLES (RG14PN3221 RG78PN121 RD37 SD2 ED14 SN206) - Household
Figure 4 – 1911 Census

I did a search of a death certificate for John Matthews. I found him in the Redhill registration district for 1927 residing at St Johns, Redhill although his place of residence was at 114 Walnut Tree Close, in Guildford. This was an address I was very familiar with as my Grandmother had been born there in 1912. The informant was a Read, occupier. Why was the death no recorded by Edith?

Death Certificate John Matthews 1848-1927
Figure 5 – Death certificate of John Matthews December Quarter of 1927 Reigate Surrey

So, it would appear that Edith and my Grandmother’s father, also called John must have had some communication in regard to their father. John senior did according to my Grandmother live with them in Guildford, and like many families my Great Grandmother had in law problems and referred to her father in law as a dirty old man. I guess that he suffered from various conditions that affect elderly gentlemen!

While searching the Great War Service Records on Ancestry for another relative I did an off the wall search for Charles Jelley. I did not really expect to find that he would have been active. Much to my surprise he was, aged 41 years, called up as a reservist for the duration of the war. Having served during the Boer War with the 6th Dragoon Guards, he was discharged medically unfit in 1916. As I read through the record I spotted that another child had been born to the family, a baby girl Olive Kathleen in 1916. She sadly died aged 7 months and a copy of the death certificate was in the Great War Service Record for Charles Jelley. That confirmed the photographs of the children with Edith.

Figure 6 – Edith Jelley (nee Matthews) with children identified as Charles, Edith Mabel, Olive Kathleen.

There is still no picture of Charles Jelley. The Service Record revealed something else of interest, and that I had been unaware of. The family had moved to Paddington London. As always, as one question is answered so another few arise.

I searched the online facility of FreeBMD to see if there had been other children born to Edith and Charles. None were found, but I found a death for Edith Jelley in the June Quarter of 1921 just aged 40 years. I felt such a wave of emotion. Here was Edith’s death . I sent off for the certificate hoping that I had found another Edith Jelley, alas no, the certificate arrived. Edith Annie Jelley aged 40 years, wife of Charles Jelley a restaurant manager of 13 Malbern Road Kilburn. The death recorded by E. HARRISON sister in law who had been present at her death.

I knew that the surname of Harrison did not appear on the Matthews side of the family, therefore I assumed that E Harrison must be the sister of Charles Jelley. Using the search facility on FreeBMD I searched for the marriage of a Jelley to a Harrison. My luck was in and it revealed the marriage of Eliza Jelley to George Ernest Harrison in the December quarter of 1895. Then I spotted when I had another look at the marriage certificate that the marriage Charles to Edith had in fact been witnessed by Eliza Harrison. Which just shows that you should often look back at previously located information, sometimes we forget what we already know!

I may never know anymore about Edith, although there are lots more questions about their time in London, what happened to their children, How did Charles become a restaurant manager, just to name a few. I suspect that Edith was a VAD and helped to nurse Charles back to health. They lived next door to one another, a fact gleaned from their wedding certificate and were friendly faces to each other and I would like to think that potentially a romance blossomed as they married in April 1902 and Charles was discharged in June of the same year.

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Dorothy Lilian May nee Butcher 1915 – 2010

Today has not been a good day. The last link with my Grandfather’s family passed away this morning and has left a void that will be quite impossible to fill.

Born Lilian Dorothy Butcher in February 1915, the second youngest of a family of 12. Aunt was always known to us as Doll, the nick name given to her by her brothers because of her petite size. Whilst she was never a large lady in size she had both character and depth far great than anyone I have ever known.

Aunt married Richard May at St Nicholas Church Guildford in 1936.

Wedding of Dorothy Lilian Butcher to Richard May1936

Widowed in 1958 Aunt never remarried, but devoted her life to her son, nieces and nephews and great nieces and nephews.

Whilst this posting may seem rather morbid, I didn’t want to let Aunt’s passing be unmentioned. I have some wonderful memories and in time, when I feel stronger, they will appear in this blog in remembrance of a true lady.

I was indeed very lucky to have had such a wonderful relationship with her, both as Great Aunt and as my Godmother. I will truly miss her. She is now reunited with her beloved husband,son and her siblings.

Lilian Dorothy May (nee Butcher) May 2009
Photo taken May 2008.

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Snippets from the the news……

BBC News – Life goes online after death with ‘memory boxes’
Published 3rd December 2010

The Independent – Identified at last: faces of the Somme – Europe, World
Published 28th December 2010

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Advent Calendar 2010 – In review

I have simply loved writing the advent calendar posts. These have been huge journalling prompts and have encouraged me to write and think about times past. They have also highlighted to me the questions that I wish I had asked.

I have though not managed to keep to schedule, which is personally irritating to me and what subjects I have not posted on as yet will be posted on during the next few days. Alas, work has been the culprit this year and I have certainly lost my work – home life balence which will be recovered for 2011.

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Christmas Broadcast or ‘Queen’s Speech’

View the Christmas Broadcast or ‘Queen’s Speech’ in full on YouTube:

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Advent Calendar 2010 – Christmas and Deceased Relatives

Christmas always has its sad moments, in that we miss our deceased relatives, and yet remember with fondness and love those who have passed away.

My Grandmother, always comes to my mind because her birthday, on 18th December was a week before Christmas and this has appeared elsewhere during the Advent Calender postings. The last Christmas my Grandmother was alive she came to stay with us. Stuart did lots of recordings of her, asking her questions and listening to her remembering past times. Even now, some 14 years on I can not listen to those tapes or watch the video. When Stuart transfers it to DVD which he will do next year he’ll do it when I am out as I still miss her dreadfully.

Then in the late 1990s my Nephew, then aged 16 years died on 18th December as a result of a tragic accident involving another school boy. His funeral was on Christmas Eve and although I was not especially close to my Nephew, my husband was and my thoughts always turn to him and the fact that his young life was wasted.

This year we lost my Father in Law and this is the first Christmas without him. Likewise, I was not especially close to him, but his death, was unexpected and this year will of course bring sadness to our Christmas. Amongst that sadness is of course joy, as each of those individuals has a special place in our hearts and we have some wonderful memories, which, when the time is right will probably appear in this blog.

May they rest in peace, in the knowledge that they are missed everyday.

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Lunar Eclipse to coincide with Winter Solstice

The first full lunar eclipse to coincide with a winter solstice since 1554. UK & Europe will be able to watch from 0741 GMT on Tuesday 21st Dec.

I was up in anticipation of seeing something wonderful. Sadly it was cloudy where I was and that was rather disappointing. There have been some great photos posted on the web. Here is the photograph posted to the local BBC radio station on Face Book – Good Morning Devon and here is the details from Sky News.

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