Fearless Females – Day 28

March 28 — Do you remember your mother’s best friend? Your grandmother’s? How and where did they meet? How long were they friends? What activities did they share?

My Grandmother had a friend called Rene Pratt. She lived with her husband Ken and their son David in Aldershot Road Guildford. Ken’s mother lived next door to them. I wondered how they knew my Grandmother and asked Mum. From what we can remember, the connection was that Mrs Pratt senior was friends with my Great Grandmother, Mary Elizabeth Elstone.

Another friend was Dick and Marge Singleton. They also lived in Guildford and from what we can establish my Grandfather and Dick Singleton were stationed together in the Army. We know from the Service Record of my Grandfather that during 1941 he was in Sierre Leone and we think that is where the photograph below was taken. My Grandfather, George Butcher is the man on the left.

Another relationship was the one between my Grandmother and one of evacuees. Joyce Moore was about 15 years old when she was sent to live in Guildford from London. This was the start of a relationship that was to last until my Grandmother passed away in 1995. During those times, there was the attendance at Joyce’s wedding, and the births of her two children.

I recall visiting Joyce during the summer, I can only have been about 3 or so and being allowed to play in the sandpit and was jointed by a rather cute frog! I also recall meeting Joyce’s father, who from a distant memory was a tall man with white reseeding hair and walked with a stick. Joyce was also Godmother to my Mum and my Mum has Joyce as a middle name. The relationship between Joyce and my Grandmother was a cross between sisters and a mother figure. It was a relationship that was formed out of necessity of war and literally lasted a lifetime.
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Sorting Saturday – Twitter – March 2011

The favourites list at Twitter for March has got worse at 95 favourites. That said, March has been a busy month both on and off line and as such I have not spent much time reading those sites marked as favourites as I would have liked. Also I have been poorly, with exhaustion that I blamed on a dodgy Thyroid to find that it was not in fact the cause at all. I am now feeling better and about to plough the saved Tweets, don’t you love that word!

  1. Stories of migration to Wagga Wagga NSW Australia – information from migrants and to submit details click here
  2. I stumbled across a post at the tail end of February. The story of a house which faces demolition in New England. A month later I revisited the blog to see if there was an update. There wasn’t but I had a more in depth look at the blog – A New England House Historian – a really interesting site.
  3. To celebrate Women’s History Month – Fearless Females – I am a little behind on some posts, but will complete the task. It has been very thought provoking and contains a useful set of blog prompts.
  4. Back in February Walking with Ancestors wrote of an interest in researching cousin marriages. I said that I had a few in my ancestry. Here is part one of the article
  5. Geneabloggers mentioned the site Zoom Village – needs further exploring.
  6. Maisie Dobbs by Jaqueline Winspear Readalong
  7. Old Time Quilts
  8. Interesting article – Has your blog met your expectations?
  9. Autoimmune Hypothyroidism – a new post at DearThyroid
  10. Launching the Open Genealogy Alliance – more reading required!
  11. Do you have a blogging Will? – An interesting post and much food for thought. What would happen to your blog and on line presence?
  12. In this post – To Research or not to Research gives rise to a question that many of us to answer. I know there have been moments of my research when I have thought should I?
  13. One Place Studies article on Copyright mentioned in February is HERE
  14. Thought provoking article – Being British – journal prompt
  15. I have been debating for several months whether or not to buy an iPad. Here is an interesting post and comparisons with other designs by alternative manufacturers.
  16. Online file storage – Uploadingit.Com
  17. File Profiling Tool available from The National Archives – further reading required!
  18. A moment of pure sillyness – a library theme book tiles
  19. History & Genealogy Handbook 2011 (Australia & New Zealand)
  20. Voices of the Past – Heritage Blogger
  21. Sites to explore – blogging tools – Zemanta
  22. Social Networking site for foodies! – Hot Potato
  23. Have you added your blog? – Family History Directory
  24. New Genealogical Search engine – Mocavo
  25. Is this mole likely to be cancerous? – day job – CPD opportunity!
  26. Another day job link – cardiovascular checker – more CPD!
  27. Read-a-thon – 9th April 2011
  28. Thoughts in Progress Blog – more reading
  29. Google search and web history – an interesting post by Geniaus
  30. Link between Gilberts Syndrome & Hypothyroidism & Hypothyroidism
  31. Norfolk Tours Blog
  32. Contribute your ancestral obituaries, or just ones from the newspaper!
  33. Top Prescriptions dispensed – Article from The Guardian 15th March 2011 – nothing like a dispensary I have worked it; far too tidy!
  34. National Day of Remembrance – 25th April for those of Australia & New Zealand who perished in the Great War. – Trans-Tasman ANZAC Day Blog Challenge
  35. Census 2011 website & How the Census has changed – Census 1951
  36. Great post about Evernote organise research & bookmarks
  37. Writing a book review
  38. Starting 28th March 2011 BBC1 9.15am – A Hundred Years of Us series of 5 programmes.
  39. Back in January I wrote a blog post for One Month before Heartbreak. My post is HERE. This was essentially a campaign to try and protect the benefits of those who genuinely need it in the midst of the coalition clamping down on benefit abuse. Somewhere during the last month or so I missed a note about the 75th Disability Blog Carnival and whilst I am not personally affected, I do think that it a campaign and carnival worth contributing to. After all, not all disabilities are viewable.
  40. Tea Appreciation Society – I have a couple of tea related books on my to be read mountain!
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More on the Census

Well, it is the 27th March 2011 and that means it is Census Day. I have debated whether I should complete the form and then post, leaving its arrival at the Office of National Statistics to the ability of Royal Mail or should I complete the form and submit on line?

Mr Anglers Rest wasn’t bothered. Actually he must have been living under a rock for the last 6 weeks as he didn’t realise it was the year of the Census. Even as I sat reading the paperwork manually he didn’t realise!
I reflected what had my ancestors hand writing looked like? I knew the writing of both my maternal Grandparents, and that of my Grandfather’s mother, Annie Butcher nee Harris, but I didn’t know what Annie’s husband, Charles Butcher writing had been like. It would have been wonderful if I could have seen it. Therefore, I am hoping in a 100 years from now someone will marvel at the handwriting that it on my form.
I therefore have decided to complete the forms both manually and archive here and then complete and submit on line.
Some of the questions are interesting. Who owns my home? How many rooms, and how many bedrooms. Did I work last week and doing what and for whom. My place of birth is recorded as England but no reference has been submitted to say where in England. Have we lost sight of the real reasons for a Census? Are we no longer finding out about the populous but finding out other statistics and work pattens with a hint at health and caring for others?
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Weekend Cooking – Mrs Beeton’s Book of Household Management

About a month ago I saw an interesting two part review of Mrs Beeton’s Book of Household Management (Abridged version published by World Classics).

Here are the links to Review One and Review Two written by Bunny’s Stuff.
I was interested in the review and as I had a voucher that I wanted to spend on books that would become part of my library collection I ordered it from Waterstones about two weeks ago.

The book arrived today and looks really interesting and is currently resting on my cookbook shelf on the hall bookcase.
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Fearless Females – Day 24

March 24 — Do you share any physical resemblance or personality trait with one of your female ancestors? Who? What is it?


I think that our personalities are made up of bits of our parents and relatives and is influenced by the actions, we witness and hear as children.

I notice that I often stop talking in the middle of a sentence to think or change the subject completely then will restart the original conversation. It drives my husband mad, but I noticed recently that my Mum does the same thing and my Grandfather did too. I am also very focused. I can walk down the street and will be middle of the pavement and completely unaware of the surroundings, and people, another trait I have spotted in a family member.

I have a small red patch which appears on my right cheekbone when I am a little stressed or tired. My Great Aunt had the same, as did her sisters. The next time I look in the mirror and see my reflection looking back I shall wonder who else is looking back at me, for I am sure there is the characteristics of others there too.
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52 Weeks of Personal Genealogy & History – Wk 12 – Movies

Week 12: Movies. Did (or do you still) see many movies? Describe your favorites. Where did you see these films? Is the theater still there, or is there something else in its place?

Challenge runs from Saturday 19th March to Friday 25th March 2011

I am a bit of a fidget when watching the television. A programme has to really hold my attention and if is does not I might just well go to bed with a book, or turn over the channel. I do though occasionally watch movies on the television, and even rarer go to the cinema.

One of the best films I saw was in 1987, A Room with a View based upon the book by E.M. Forester. I saw the film at the Odeon at Guildford which at that time was situated at the corner of Jenner Road and Epsom Road.
With a friend I went to the cinema in Leicester Square to see Memphis Bell. I remember we spilt popcorn as the first scene shows a plane exploding which made us jump. I was so glad the lights were out!
A recent film was part of the Narnia Chronicles. We saw this film in South West Scotland, in a small town called Annan. It has to be the smallest cinema I have ever seen. There was even an interval during the film to replenish popcorn and use the facilities!

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Fearless Females – Day 13

March 13 — Moment of Strength: share a story where a female ancestor showed courage or strength in a difficult situation


When the Second World War broke out in September 1939, I am assuming that my Grandmother was engaged and preparing to marry my Grandfather. They married on 4th November 1939 at Guildford Registry Office. My Grandmother was 26 years old and my Grandfather aged 31 years.

I can’t help but wonder if the war influenced when they got married. My Grandfather joined the Army as a Territorial in 1940 and I know Gran always felt that she wished he hadn’t and instead gone to work with his brothers on the farm, which was a reserved occupation. The fact that he did not take the easy option is a true reflection of the principles that my Grandfather had.

My Grandmother, although had sister in laws nearby and her sister and as far as I know a good relationship with her mother in law, I wonder whether Gran was lonely. She must have been frightened and worried, not just about the bombs that might fall on Guildford, but also on where my Grandfather was.

By the time the war had ended they had been married 7 years and spent most of the time apart and I can not help but wonder what impact that had on their relationship. The sad thing is that there is no one left to ask.
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Book Blogger Hop – Which book would you like to be in?

From the Crazy-For-Books web page “the Book Blogger Hop is a place just for book blogger and readers to connect and share our love of the written word! This weekly BOOK PARTY is an awesome opportunity for book blogger to connect with other book lovers, make new friends, support each other, and generally just share our love of books! It will also give blog readers a chance to find other book blogs to read! So, grab the logo, post about the Hop on your blog, and start HOPPING through the list of blogs that are posted in the Linky list below!!


The Hop lasts Friday-Monday every week, so if you don’t have time to Hop today, come back later and join the fun! This is a weekly event! And stop back throughout the weekend to see all the new blogs that are added!


There are a few rules!
1. Enter your blog address at the linky list on the Crazy-For-Books website
2. Post about the hop on your blog & answer the question on the Crazy-For-Books website
3. Visit other blogs in the linky list

This weeks question is:

“If you could physically put yourself into a book or series…which one would it be and why?”

I think the answer to this week’s question would be the Elm Creek Quilters series by Jennifer Chiaverini. I LOVE this series! This is a series that has grown and evolved. You don’t have to start at the beginning of the series and read in order. The storyline is though continuous, although there are books that focus on past events. They come highly recommended!

They are not simply about quilting, they also reflect the lives of individuals and the characters become old friends as they develop and grow. They are essentially about a fictional group of women who meet and form a bond through their love and passion for quilting. The essence is something that is replicated by women (and men) the world over about a whole host of things.

The Aloha QuiltThe Lost QuilterThe Winding Ways QuiltThe Quilter’s KitchenA Quilter’s Holiday
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Fading Scars by Paige Day


This is the personal story of tragedy, strength, fear, courage and grief.


The concept of grief without a body and a funeral is difficult, but it happens. Not because an individual is lost to sea and/or unrecoverable, but because of an incident that changes the life of the injured and slowly-recovering forever. It is difficult to grieve for the person they were, and will never be again. This is that story, that very personal journey.

Mark and Paige became a couple, following divorces. They were given second chances at happiness and love. There would be hard work. Bringing together two families, for a second chance is never easy; family members, emotions, memories and alike that all need to be incorporated, included and tolerated is never easy despite how much you love the other person and the will to do so.


Together, they were now raising Paige’s children with hopes, dreams and aspirations for the future. Wiped away, within, almost the blink of an eye. There is that moment of disbelief that what has happened has in fact happened. Being in that situation is dreadful, but to work within a profession where you see this happen to other people is worse. You know the drill, what will potentially happen, the next stage of the journey and the words of encouragement that will follow in order to give you hope. You stop being that professional and become the relative where you hope for a miracle that perhaps might not happen.

In this journey the injured survived, and the need for courage to continue as best as possible on the family path kicks in. The grief that the person, who once was has gone only to be replaced with a new version of a familiar person. Thinking of the domestic issues on a different level, the involvement and inclusion that are needed to ensure that the loved one still feels that they are part of the family process, without too much disruption. There is also the journey that the family left behind travel along. The stresses of almost thinking for both adults. It sounds easy, but is tough and needs courage, resilience and support.

The remembrance that the family includes children who need their Mum, need her reassurance and continued love. It becomes a balancing act, juggling all the different balls that occasionally do come crashing down then the guilt, and frustration that follows.

This is an incredibly powerful story that could happen to anyone of us. It is an emotional read and despite experiencing something very similar, but with a different outcome in my personal life I could identify some of the emotions experienced, the questions and guilt.

This is a journey that will travel with me for a while yet and two quotes that support the powerful reading are:

“That promise I made to my husband was going to be the hardest one I ever had to keep”

“Our family is my silver lining”

Small print – I reviewed this book having received an eBook from the publisher. I was not paid for my review and the review is my genuine opinion of the book.
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Guest Post at GeniMates

Jill at GeniMates has invited me to be a guest on her blog today
You can read my Guest Post HERE

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